According to Napoleon Hill, “If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self”.
Critias, an Athenian salesman said that “If you discipline yourself within, you will be less vulnerable to injury from outside.” As the character that stinks will eventually sink. A destiny decays when character declines.
You need more than a willing spirit to conquer flesh and fulfill destiny in life. You need self discipline.
Self-discipline is the ability to do what is right even if you don’t feel like it.
Great people are highly principled. Living a principle centered life is the hallmark of winners.
Winners are products of rigorous and disciplined system. They don’t just show up out of nowhere.
Alan Armstrong said: “Champions do not become champions when they win the event, but in hours, weeks, months and years, they spend preparing for it. The victorious performance itself is merely the demonstration of their championship character.”
Lao-Tzu said: “He who gains victory over other men is strong, but he who gains victory over himself is all powerful.”
We must take ownership of our lives and not allow others take the steering wheel of our lives.
R-Kelly, unarguably one of the best R&B recording artiste of all times finally goes to a jail sentence of 20 years for pornography, statutory rape and other sexual offenses. His brilliant lyrics and melodic sounds cannot be compared. . I still remember his greatest hit of all times that shook the world- “I Believe I Can Fly”, “If I Could Turn” and “Storm ⛈ is Over”.
He was a solid master in his craft; a virtuoso of the Mic. He did no wrong when he hits the stage; he was lord of that stage, with a charismatic nature that no one could contend. I remember all. Up till this moment, they still resonate in my head; they still serenade my senses. But the turn of event has reduced a star to a piece of bread.
So, here we are, from three-time Grammy Award winner to wearing prison overall. As much as I feel justice should take its course, my heart still bleeds for this legend. My heart bleeds to see what this guy has been reduced to- a defeated and despondent figure. Helpless and hopeless, now he is paying for his choice of life. Now convicted to spend 20 years, this means he should be over 70 after serving his prison term. Really sad!
When R-Kelly was acquitted and his case dismissed over a decade ago for child pornography, his brother, Kerry Kelly, called him on the phone and told him: “Hey man… God has given you another chance.” The singer’s response, according to his brother, during an interview, was: “No…. God didn’t give me another chance; I gave myself another chance. My money gave me another chance.”
Since over a decade after his acquittal, R-Kelly never learnt; he never changed. He took the fact that the judgment was in his favour for granted. He continued his salacious act of sleeping with under-aged girls. He forgot that it was only a matter of time before his actions would catch up with him big time.
Depending on what they are, our habits would either break us or make us. Any habit that you refuse to deal with in the present would deal with you in the future. Stop that habit of pornography, masturbation, lying, anger or whatever it is that is holding you back from living a fulfilling life. You have to ‘face’ your bad habits, so that you can ‘phase’ them out.
At the height of his fame and career, R-Kelly was one of the most recognized entertainment personalities in the world. Apart from his many accomplishments, his outrageous, undisciplined and controversial behaviour with under-aged girls and deep involvement with child pornography had kept him in the public eye and in the courtroom. He was a man noted for his undisciplined sex escapade and erratic behaviour.
Jim Rohn said: “Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” He also said: “We must all suffer one of two things: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret.” It is either we suffer the pain of change or suffer remaining the way we are.
I am reaching out to all the youth out there in the words of Max DePree: “We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.” We need to constantly adjust ourselves to get the best out of life. Destiny decays when discipline declines.
If life doesn’t teach you anything, let it teach you to acknowledge the grace and mercy of God. Let it teach you never to take things for granted; to learn from your mistakes when you are given a second chance. Let it teach you to introspect and observe your conscience. Above all, let it teach you to cut off the habits that have the potential to cut you down in the future.